A word with myriad implications...quoting Woody allen..
"If you are feeling tingly all over, you are either in love or having smallpox!!"
Love is a blend of emotions...attraction,care,concern,passion,loyalty,and according to me,perhaps the most important of all friendship.
Love is everything,all rolled into one..A mother's passion,a friend's care,a sister's guidance,a teacher's angst,a colleague's robustness,a room mate's concern, a lovers spat..
Love is a dance which weaves a very intricate pattern,lulls everyone into false complacency,and has everyone swaying with it.It can be personified as the pied piper,leading one and all into the nadir of life,ravine of distress or the zenith of bliss,whiff of innocence.A swirling crescendo raging around which leaves behind aching souls or souls floating on the clouds.Its like the finest mead or wine,maturing with age and as strong as diamond,meant to withstand the tests of the time.Love discriminates none, and has little mercy.It leaves behind many victims but more beneficiaries.It doesn't distinguish on the basis of colour,caste and creed.And they say,people bitten by this bug gain ethereal happiness and bliss.
So,This is what i've heard about the bug.What i think is a very different matter.Its something like a complex number.The love we all have heard about is just the imaginary part,the real part is the part which actually also exists.The part where there is no fairy tale endings.I feel,love requires a certain level of maturity to be understood,the carving in its art being way to minute and intricate for us to even fathom about it..
Love at first site??
"I believe in love at first site,
coz i fell in love with my mother
the moment i saw her.."
That's believable, but the one we hear about every so often?No.I think they are just poor misguided souls,lulling themselves into thinking something which doesn't exist,into some sense of security.Feelings and attraction matter a lot but that package can be termed love only when compatibility is there.After all,its the long term we are talking about.And this is where "love is friendship" comes in,where the concern and care,sharing secrets and emotions,actually talking, comes before,way before,the intimacy of a relationship.
And ya,am one those people who roll eyes when others gush about how deeply in love they are.Because frankly speaking,it begs a questions,at this age,how are you so sure that this is person you are gonna be sitting with,sipping tea,when you are old??As per the jargon, you've hardly played the field yet!!
You can fall in love with a person's personality, but then do you know if your tastes and routines match?That's the question which should actually set the route,not those rugged features and to die for smile!!Those are the questions you should think about and then learn to compromise.For what is a relationship without compromise?just a civil wrestling competition..
Am one of those people who,whenever its said that "love is in the air",rush away from the spot,just so that we are not infected.So,if roaming around with your beloved hand in hand,looking at him with "lovelorn" eyes,batting your eyelashes every now and then,singing his praises high and loud(!?!),hanging onto his every word as if they are some sacred utterances,spending your every free moment either talking to him or thinking about him,drooling over the notebooks writing his name,going all gooey when his name's taken and then let him pick up the tabs for all the fun( list could go on..)is being in love,then sadly, am not cut out for it..
As they say,"All that glitters is not gold"..Yes,a relationship may glitter,look dazzling and cool but it comes with its own bundle of obstacles.And when we already have to spend the better half of our life in companionship,then whats the point of ruining our experience of single status from now itself?
Yes, i believe in love, but the one where it means accepting a person completely,warts and all.The one mothers have for their children,the one that binds two best friends,sisters,siblings..not one of a kind but still special and mind blowing.Take it slow,take it steady,but then,take it for real.. but the fairytale love is still a mystery for me,waiting to be unraveled,sitting patiently,gathering dust but coming out dazzling even more than a diamond!!
let the dust gather while i go off in the pursuit of that elusive something,let it pile up till am ready to accept and appreciate its worth..
meanwhile,
adios to all!!
