Who is not aware of this stream existing in real as well as reel life??
Well, as students ,this is again one of those concepts which comes in handy on a regular basis..as hard as I might try there are some questions to which the way of answering is simply faking it.And then vivas..again back to our fake o logy..what would we have have done if it were not for this one logy??and while sometimes this faking hits the jackpot, there are times when we are left floundering high in the mud lands!!
And well,this where my justification for this kind of falseness ends..where we are doing what we want as we have not either done better or we dont know anything better.
As the plot for most of the things coming under the shadow of reel life are neatly subjected to a good side and a bad side,where the good side inevitably ends up taking all the glories,the same is true for real life as well.Though here we simply cannot have a tailor made happy ending for us,what we obviously believe to be the good side.Well,even if we learn to take everything in our stride with a bitter pill along just for comfort,there are things which still bother me.Like people being overly polite on face and as soon as the back is turned,start to go all beep about them.People pouring sweet honey and bitter venom with equal ease..its becoming an itch,An itch which I am dying to scratch.But I don't..any guesses why? ya,to maintain the fake polite facade.
Yes, am as much guilty of following a part of this new fake-o-logy trend as the people am condemning, but still who would want to be the lone fighter in this world of false relationships..where commitment towards anyone or anything is till the interest lasts, where friendships are more brittle than glass, where the real thing stands out like a beacon of hope, shining for mortals like me who still believe in the existence of unthinking flow of life..where look before you leap is true but not look and think before you speak.
Why is it that trust is becoming something which you have to question?There used to be a time,am sure, when once the nature of relationship has been established, be it friendship or anything else, trust never becomes an issue again.
And well now is an era when I call so many people my friends, but have been taught,yeah pretty bitterly as well, that not all of them can be trusted with the slightest of my comments, forget about secrets.It itches pretty badly when a person comes in ,smiling all sweetly and talking all nonsensical stuff, just to see what am doing and when am able to look through that facade so easily that its almost stupid to put up that facade in the first place.I find people who schmooze a lot better in this terms.Their casual attitude at least does not leave any room for pointless scheming.It is kind of easier to trust them as they are likely to forget everything or not consider our stuff to be worth the hype we create for it.
And while we are getting all nervous about the trust issue and are constantly checking our backs, waiting to be back stabbed, people come in, guide us with all sorts of advice about why not to worry and then go out and do the back stabbing themselves. Well, this might be a bit of a exaggeration but is still true to a certain extent.And thats how we come to next topic which is a favorite of people specializing in fake-o-logy.Passing out free snippets of ADVICE.Even if am not low and actually do not need any advice, people come up with things like "I can understand what you are going through,You should do this..".Firstly, everyones troubles are situational to themselves.its highly ironic when people say, I understand what you are going through.And secondly,if someone knows what is to be done, then they should simply let you know without much hue and cry of what they have have been through, as this is not the time for letting others know your troubles, and well..hey!!most likely we were there for you when you went through that phase.. And then its easy to imagine what happens when you actually need some support.It bugs me a lot, that while giving advices all of these 'gurus' pass out the words of wisdom so obviously copied from somewhere, none of these gurus follow the same advice they dish out.I suppose the rules change for them, or again, they are ardent followers of the discipline of fake-o-logy.
Coming to the end of this outpour, I would now sway the direction towards those people in our lives who ,in a fight, strive to recollect all those things which you did to bother them, very conveniently forgetting all the things you did for them ignoring your own needs.And then try to build up air castles consisting of nothing but their troubled life, magnifying each and every problem. Am not saying that everyones life is carefree.What I mean to say is silence about the matter dignifies the situation and reduces the magnitude of our troubles there itself.So then whats the point of creating all the hullabaloo about them? According to me, it is just a bid to draw attention.Again putting up a fake facade just to prove that you are right.
And well, i did mention that am as much of a participant, as a victim, in this saga of fakeness. Fake it till you make it..yeah, maybe..but keep faking so that you seem to be making it?uhh...no!!There are many more facades to this stream of fake-o-logy but i managed to tough a few which i couldn't justify but many a times inadvertently followed.Yes, i agree maintaining relationships is very important thing these days, but the lure of the real thing is always taunts me, which I found in some cases, missed in others.So, yes, Fake-o-logy is now a part and parcel of our lives, entwined very closely and minutely, but still, it needs to be limited to just a certain extent..
It would be a very sorry life indeed if all my life I just strive to please people and fake my appreciation and never be able to voice my true feelings about them.
